Focus on yourself; Do not seek revenge on the narcissist

(This post was written as an answer to a question "how to become a nightmare of the narcissist?" on Quora platform. It is posted here to spread awareness on dealing with the narcissism)

First become independent. Avoid any kind of dependency on the narcissist. If you ignore them, focus on yourself and become your best, it will hurt them the most. Focusing on ourselves helps than seeking revenge. We don’t bite dogs for they biting us. If you are convinced, you don’t have to read any further.

If you want get some pleasure from becoming narcissist's nightmare, you will have to employ similar tactics that narcissist played on you. You can try the following. Though sadistic, they will work:

1. Do things which the narcissist tells you not to do (for example, if the narcissist prevented you from meeting your friends, you will go on to meet them and ignore all of the tantrums narcissist throws at you).
2. Ignore all of their threats. If needed, be prepared to fight (legal, physical or mental games).
3. Treat the narcissist like shit. Don’t say it in words rather convey through actions.
4. Challenge the narcissist in public. Demonstrate you are superior to the narcissist.
5. Devalue them without any mercy.
6. Become friends with narcissist’s good friend and worst enemy. If possible, flirt with them to hurt the narcissist severely. When questioned just deny.
7. Don’t accept any accusation from the narcissist. Blindly turn it on them like they did it to you.

List can go on. You can recollect how the narcissist caused you pain and make them feel the same by mirroring their behavior.

But I would still say, just ignore them and move on. That is the ultimate damage you can cause to them. We don’t have to become another narcissist to take revenge on them. Focus on healing. Do what you enjoy. Spend time with those who elevate you.

When you are healed, you don’t want any revenge. You will be rather thankful to the narcissist for cutting open your weaknesses and make you a different and a much tempered person. You will know that focus of your life needs to be you. You won’t need any further validation from another narcissist.